So, this is a new project that I'm starting! Basically, I'm planning on posting a journal post like this every month. I really enjoyed writing my journals for Japan and saving memories, and I'd like to save memories from normal every day life for the future, too. I know. All that hard-hitting stuff that you just love to read about. Should be absolutely fascinating. It's probably going to be confusing things that only I understand, and that are baffling/uninteresting to everyone else. C'est la vie!
It's pretty different from the material that I normally run here, so sorry about that. Like I said, it's mostly for me. But if other people are down with it, sweet!
It's generally going to follow this format:
Random quotes, memories, or things that I want to save on my journal
Posts that I found amusing on Tumblr.
This month is a lot more retrospective than my journals will normally be, because I did a "Year Debrief" thing and basically wrote anything that popped into my head as something that I wanted to remember. they'll typically be much shorter.
So, without further ado, DECEMBER 2014 JOURNALS:
Dan: Alissa, what time is it?
Dan: Weird, it feels like 10!
Ben: Why are you even interviewing at that school? Aren't you telling people that you're going to XYZ college?
Me: Yeah, but no one can argue with that, like, there's no question as to whether I'm going to get into XYZ college, so no one can be like, "Stop being so optimistic" and break my mood.
Ben: "K was all up in your business saying that you shouldn't go to XYZ college."
Me: Yes, but I need you to understand that K hates literally everything.
...He was just like, "Yeah, she totally does."
Lyndsay: "Why's this kid taking bathroom selfies with his girlfriend?"
Daniel: "Don't make fun of him, that's his hobby."
I just overheard my mother saying, "Don't tell me we have to watch the Kardashians show now" in a completely incredulous tone.
...What's going on in there..?
Tumblr post to which I relate on a spiritual level:
ohana means family. family means having your life choices questioned and your flaws pointed out to you
Random Lady: How old are you?
Her: You don't look it.
They had a sign up at my parent's church that said "God Bless" on Sunday, and I couldn't stop laughing, because I don't think I've ever hear someone say God Bless earnestly and without a hint of irony. Everyone on Tumblr just ends sentences with "God Bless," it's just understood that that's how we roll, and I love it. Like, "Man, I love Sherlock, God Bless."
I just cannot take anyone who says "God Bless" unironically seriously.
Ben: "We saw Tate at Wegman's."
Me: "WHAT? I wanna see Tate! Can we go back?"
Dad: "No way. There is NO WAY that I am going back into that store. If I have to go back there, I'm going to end up pummeling someone's head with a can of Hawaiian Punch."
My Dad is 110% done with holiday shopping, apparently.
Ben: "I'm scared of older white women. I always think they're going to steal my stuff."
That would be a reference to this video.
What's hilarious to me is that Ben has such a sailor's mouth, but only around me and friends who he knows won't judge him. Around my parents he won't say a thing. I heard him talking to my Mom the other day about "That movie 'Kick-Butt'." This child.
Lyndsay about some people that we now:
"What's up with them? Do they all live in a tent or something?"
My family is totally going to be the kind of people who would all live in a tent together.
Wise words that I lifted from Tumblr:
i’m gonna name my firstborn “arial”
and people will be like “oh like the mermaid”
and i’ll say “no like the font”
This song is never going to get out of my head. And I'm all right with that.
Meghan Trainor is freaking adorable.
Thanks God for nerdy internet people. Just in general. What would I do without you all?
So, I went to a Christmas turn up function (just kidding, it was a party with a bunch of very religious people. I was the most scandalous person there), and L just messaged me saying that "After you left the party on Sunday, we were telling stories about Ben
"Like how [soandso] traumatized him when you guys came to play group...When you guys walked in, he went, 'We don't want any babies."Lifted from Tumblr:
*Did it happen? Lord only knows. Girl tells some stories.
I was like, "What exactly is she trying to suggest here? Is this some kind of sex joke? It sounds like a sex joke. It sounds like an INSESTUAL sex joke."
It wasn't a sex joke. Ben was one when it (supposedly)* happened. I need to get it together/get my mind out of the gutter.
RIP that text post you thought of in class and then forgot when you got home
There's an entire Wikipaedia page for "Bromantic Comedy."
Oh my gosh. I am dying.
Ben about his camp counselor:
"He was like Troye Sivan on crack."
I think I want to be his best friend.
I'm feeling this song today. Enjoy it in its full glory.
It's after Christmas, which is why I'm no longer listening to Christmas Wrapping 300 times a day.
Maybe I'll listen to it anyways because I'm not about these arbitrary boundaries :P
Just to keep you updated on my music choices (because WHY NOT), I was spontaneously reminded that about this time last year (at some point in the January of my Senior year), when I was completely stressed out and just kind of done with life in general, I became obsessed with this song. I would associate it with a study break/calming myself/convincing myself to keep on going. My brain is weird, and categorizing things is really helpful, so this song was legit, and my go-to for a while. I think I'll always feel relaxed when I hear it, because of that.
These sections are mostly for future me. Feel free to skip. Just a 2014 debrief.
I cannot believe it's almost the end of 2014. This was the year that changed my life (so melodramatic, but it did). I mean, it included what was one of the most stressful periods of my life (basically the entire second half of my Senior year), but during this year, I was able to travel to Japan for the first time, which was the most amazing experience of my entire life, and one of the best decisions I ever made. I honestly have never felt as happy and blissful as I did when I was living in Japan. I can't wait to go back. It was like life was finally the way that I had always wanted it to be. Everything about Japan was so perfect. It's hard to explain WHY it was so perfect--like yes, there was the fulfillment of a lifetime love of Japan/Japanese, but there was something more, a peacefulness/bliss that was in me at all times, the seeing of things that I had always wanted to see..it's hard to explain, but it was absolutely amazing. It constantly took my breath away, and the smallest things astounded me. I was finally able to go to JAPAN this year--it feels surreal to even say that. I am so, so lucky. Speaking Japanese all day just makes me so inexplicably happy <3
I could talk about Japan for hours, but I have my Japan journals to do that for me. Basic points:
*I am so lucky to have gone to Japan this year
*I really, REALLY miss being able to speak Japanese all of the time, now that I am back in America.
*I can't exactly explain why everything was different there for me; I just felt more free, and I honestly felt like everything was perfect. Life was the way that it was meant to be, somehow. I can't wait until I can return, and can feel that feeling again.
Similarly, I graduated high school this year. High school was a bitter cocktail of fond memories and extremely high stress, and while I look back on it fondly for a lot of reasons, it was also very, very satisfying to be finished.
I've really been contemplating the community aspect of high school recently; it's something that I'm not sure if I valued when I had it, but that I now realize was pretty cool. Like, I've been doing college applications for the second time, and I'm missing the support net that I had the first time; the people with whom I could gather and complain about how hard college admissions is, about our dreams for the future, about how nothing was turning out how we had hoped that it would. I'm really missing that community. It's hard to do this on my own without my sounding boards. I especially miss my AP Calculus and AP English classes; the kids in these classes were aiming pretty high, college-wise, and like me, I think some of them ended up disappointed. It kind of sucked, a lot, but we were in it together, and it was really special to come together and be able to share that part of our loves with others who understood it completely. A lot of people like to complain about the crappy people in their high school, or whatever, but honestly, I am so grateful for the kids who were in my class. The whole college admissions/applications/existential crisis thing left me really raw and vulnerable, and it honestly saved me to have other people there who were going through the same thing. We didn't have to feel like we were imposing on people who didn't understand out problems, yet we got the support that we needed. It kind of sucks going through it alone this time, but it has helped me realize how cool that community was.
I also became involved in Nerdfighteria this year! I discovered nerdfighteria last year, however, this year I've become much more involved with the community, both through the videos, and on the Facebook group. The nerdfighters are so welcoming and loving, I feel so lucky to have found a group that is nerdy and cares about making the world a better place. And I've made so many cool friends through nerdfighteria, including one of my besties, Johanna! I am so grateful for her. She helped me a lot while I was traveling abroad; it was amazing to be able to talk to someone who loved Japan as much as I do, and who was dedicated to becoming better at Japanese and taking full advantage of her study abroad. So awesome. It's hard to explain nerdfighteria to someone who doesn't understand it, but somehow, John and Hank's videos have spawned a community of people who are welcoming, loving, and intelligent, and it's a community of which I am so happy to be a part. I also LOVED participating in Project for Awesome this year, both through donating, and through watching the livestream. It has an awesome community feel to it that I totally loved. And watching the Vlogbrothers videos always makes my day. When I felt stressed out this year, whether from school, or especially at the beginning of my trip to Japan, when language was a little overwhelming, it was amazing to have something that I knew would instantly make my day better. Thanks, Vlogbrothers. You guys are awesome. I always learn interesting things from your videos, and the community that you have formed makes my life so much better. DFTBA <3
Speaking of meeting people, those whom I have met through my student exchange are the absolute coolest. I hope I'll maintain connections with them forever <3 It's so cool to meet other foreigners who love Japan as I do. Especially when they can tell me cool things about their countries, as well. That was something that I wasn't expecting to gain in my study abroad but to me, these people are now indispensable.
Also, did I mention that I love internet people? This year, Pond, one of my internet friends from England, was basically the bomb.com. We did cool package exchanges; I did one with the girls, who loved picking things out for Pond and her son Rory, and who were absolutely delighted to get a package of English goodies back! And Pond send me the sweetest Christmas card! And my NatPar friends are the coolest, and have absolutely made my year; Lauren is amazing and is constantly helping me out and encouraging me to be a better nanny/caregiver/person in general (she's the real MVP). I'm so grateful for her, and I feel lucky that she deigns to interact with me XD She had a new squish this year, and he is just adorable (as is the rest of her family!)! I feel so lucky to "know" all of them.
My EDBW homes are also pretty amazing, and always teach me new things about babywearing! This has been a good babywearing year for me, I've learned a lot (a lot of which I have learned from Lauren's book! Check it out, yo. Lauren is all-knowing). I got my first wrap this year, and a galaxy Ergo (which I got from a Japanese thrift store for 16 dollars. I was really freaking excited about this)! Which has made babywearing a lot more accessible to me. I love me some babywearing! It makes nannying/babysitting so much easier, and the kids are happier--it's magic. Thanks to anyone who has helped me become a better babywearer this year--I appreciate you all!
Small moments that made my 2014:
When I was coming back from Japan, I went to stay at T's house for a few days. It was so wonderful--her family was friendly and welcoming, and I was so excited to see them all, as I don't get to be wit them that often. And it was a really nice transition, because: Japanese!
But, my plane arrived early in LA, anf they didn't know that that was going to happen (because I had no phone/phone serive because of the whole "coming back from abroad" thing), which left me randomly sitting on their lawn for a while and waiting until they got home. which was perfectly fine, and actually quite lovely. I had just come back from cold and frosty Nagaoka (snow for days), and sitting out in the 70-degree sunshine was just absolutely magical (maybe I'm making this sound better than it was). Also, keep in mind that I hadn't slept in over 30 hours.To my sleep deprived brain, sitting on someone's lawn seemed like a perfectly reasonable idea. Call someone? Why would I call someone? Pshh.
Basically, the point of all of this madness is that T's neighbors across the street saw me sitting on the lawn and took pity on my poor tired soul. They brought me food (tons of fruit, yogurt, bottled water...I hadn't eaten in a long time, except for the Soyjoy bars that I had eaten on the plane, so this was fabulous), the dude let me use his phone to call T, they invited me to come and sit on their porch ("We have a chair and stuff here," she said, "Please come and hang out."), they let me use their restroom. They asked me questions, they told me about their plans for the day, and were so friendly. They both said that they felt bad leaving me (which was insane, because I was perfectly content lying out on someone's lawn randomly), but they were going to their grandson's water polo match and had to leave. Everything that they did for me was so kind, and they didn't have to do any of it. They went out of their way to help me, and I am so appreciative. I was so tired and out of sorts, and their friendliness made my day so much better. I want to remember their kindness forever.
Adding to the list of amazingly kind things that people did for me that they absolutely did not have to do: recently, I found a wrap on the swap that was within my budget. This legitimately never happens, because I'm an impoverished student, and wraps are really expensive, so I was super excited. I wasn't sure if I should drop the money for it, and was kind of indecisively stalking the post about it all day, but I finally decided to go for it, because I knew how useful it would be for nannying. I was messaging the girl who was selling it and chatting, telling her how glad I was that she had decided to sell her wrap, and how much use I would get out of it. Eventually, she told me she wasn't going to send the link for Paypal. I had never used Paypal before, so I was really confused. I think I responded with, "Wait, do I have to send you a link?" XD She then explained that she, too, was a student (studying to be a NICU nurse! She is a really awesome person), and that she knows what it's like to be paying a lot for your education. She said that her family had been blessed that week, and that she wanted to do something nice for someone else. So, she sent me the wrap for free.
I don't even know what to say. I honestly do not deserve her kindness, or her generosity. It was so, so sweet of her to send this to me! And it's not like I had sent her some sob story about how I couldn't afford it--I had the money ready to send to her if she wanted it. She just....gave it to me.
I will remember her generosity and thoughtfulness forever. Honestly. I know that I will use this wrap thousands of times, with lots of different kiddos. And every time I use it, I will think of her and her kindness.
I'm calling it The Kindness Wrap, because I'm a sentimental nerd like that. To that Mama, if she's reading this, thank you so, so much. I will never forget what you have done for me.
I took the girls to a popular amusement park in this area this year, and it was so much fun. We rode on different rides, we ate good food, we ore matching T shirts that we had handmade ourselves ( Adora got off one ride brimming with excitement: "There was a Chinese girl on that ride, and she asked me where she could buy a shirt like mine!" Yeah, we're that good). It was a good time. But one thing that I remember very clearly is how kind people were to us, all day long. People went out of their ways to do nice things for us--things that they absolutely did not have to do. I wish I had asked for the one girl's name or something--she was awesome. She was running a shoppe which was selling glow in the dark objects, bubbles, hats, ect. She had out a bubble gun that she was shooting, and the girls were chasing the bubbles and having a great time. I was talking to her, complementing her earrings and stuff, because I'm a weirdo like that, but after a while, I told the girls that I needed us to move along; I was feeling thirsty and fatigued, and I was trying to chase down a cup of ice water before we got on any more rides. This girl has a cup of ice water next to her that she had gotten for herself, and when she heard me say "Okay girlfriends, I know you're having fun, but I'm feeling really, really thirsty and I need to find some water before we get on any more rides," she GAVE me her water. She was the bomb.com. I wish I could tell her how much it made my day! That was just one of a dozen times throughout the day that people went out of their way to be kind to us.
Kind people made my 2014. I hope I've been a kind person for others this year, as well.
Less specific things that I enjoyed this year:
Graduating from high school was pretty legit
Field day at A's (cousin's) elementary school was so much fun!
Talking to Bunny on FB! She's always very open, and never thinks that anything that I'm saying is weird/stupid. She's pretty epic.
Cali with my Mom (absolutely amazing trip <3 )
Reading Mayim's blog
Reading Lauren's blog!
Being with the chikas over the summer.
Hpark, Chocolate World, Fort Hunter, ect, with the chikas! Our trips are always so much fun.
Watching the P4A livestream and participating in P4A!
Going to The Night before Our Stars with my homesizzles.
TFiOS madness, in general.
DC with Kristian!
Finishing AP tests and SATs and NOT having to worry about them anymore.
NOT having to go to ABC college and instead choosing to break the mold and go to Japan, even though it was a little daunting and people were sucky about it.
Ocean City and VA beach! Love me some beach.
Watching YouTube with Alissa when I got home from Japan.
Babywearing S and other cute kiddos! I am loving learning to wrap.
Getting my wrap from Miss Awesome from EDBW. I feel so lucky.
Finding the UUs was pretty cool.
Doing my senior project taught me a lot about myself, judgment, religious school, religion, and life--it was eye opening and possibly life changing. I sometimes griped about the class (the gripe are still accurate, I only learned from the project because I chose to do it as a learning experience, and not a change to crap all over people in a holier than thou manner), but I learned a lot through that project.
Study hall with Montana, Kristian, Ariel, Bacon, and Nick was great. It was generally wild and crazy, and I sometimes resented all of them and their loudness, but for the most part, I really enjoyed being in a small study hall and getting to know those kids better. Best moment was probably Ariel getting a bad tan the day before prom, getting really depressed, and spending all of study hall lying on the floor. And Bacon calling me Kristian (we look nothing alike...?).
Dictator America! She will rule the world, and I will be in charge of her propaganda, apparently, "Because you're good at convincing people that I'm right." And Kristian will ensure that everyone has a cat living at their house.
Okay, I'm remembering things now, and I think I need to have a Montana appreciation post now. Just all Montana quotes. Here goes:
"I want a galaxy cats-themed prom. You know, like, galaxy...and cats."
"Liverpool! That's hilarious. It's like a pool of livers."
"Mexico is exactly like Chinatown, except for everything is in Spanish."
There was also, you know, "I'm going to take over the world and force everyone to quarter cats in their homes," and other such gems.
I can't think of any others. Study hall with Montana was an experience, for sure.
After the AP Calc test, I rode home with K and his Mom, and she was really supportive of my Japan trip! Yay. Good memory.
Apple Pie English! Eating food and discussing literature. Good times.
Happy 2015! May it be filler with love, openness, and learning. And vlogbrothers. Lots of vlogbrothers.
And now, for the part of my journal where I saved things that amused me on Tumblr! We all know that's the best part. So, without further ado:
I <3 Kimchi.
I'm so bitter.
I'm using this GIF every day from now on.
This is lovely.
My new reaction image to everything.
This is just golden. I don't know who made it, but I love them.
This is lovely.
I have this saved as "Ben Christmas Present." I made him a Skate and Destroy T shirt. He adores it.